Day 9: Letting Go…Allowing Flow… [31 Days of Possibility]

by Lani Voivod | @LaniVoivod


It’s all good.

No doubt you’ve heard the saying. Hipsters, stoners, Matthew McConaughey, and people who live in Hawaii use it all the time.

“It’s all good, man!” they say, as if they don’t have a worry in the world. As if they’re immune to all the niggling details, the annoying and mundane chores and tasks and deadlines, or the bigger, more serious bummers – the illnesses and struggles and strife of our human existence. On a typical day, many of us may even fight the very idea that “it’s all good.” How can it “all be good” when there’s traffic, or famine, or these fights with our spouses, or the mess that is the healthcare system, or the inexplicable popularity of Gangnam Style?

Good questions, all of them. And yet…

There’s this crazy theory that it is actually, truly all good. Literally. Like, ENERGETICALLY.

The theory is that there’s this Divine Energy, this beautiful Energy, the Energy that made universes, that created flowers and stars, mountains and babies. This Energy – some call it God, others call it Source, and still others call it Chi or Qi – is always flowing, always present. It’s like gravity. There’s no debating it. It just IS. And we, we are either allowing it to flow through us, or we’re blocking it, fighting it, resisting it.

While there are lots of books that explore this notion, all of the works of Esther and Jerry Hicks – i.e. “The Teachings of Abraham” – are particularly committed, focused, and fascinating. Ask and It Is Given is one heck of a read of theirs that comes to mind, if you think you’re ready for it.

One of the things we do to foil the flow of this benevolent Energy is WORRY.

We worry about what might happen.

We worry about what did happen, and what the consequences might be.

We worry about things we can’t control, and events that haven’t taken place yet, and most likely never, ever, EVER will take place.

We worry about what people think, what others do or might do, how others feel or might feel – all without ever really having any way to step into their minds or hearts and know for sure what they’re thinking, or why they might think or behave or feel a certain way.

Have you ever stopped to pay attention to just how much time and ENERGY goes into futile, full-court-press worry?

Unless you’re the Dalai Lama or Matthew McConaughey himself, it’s a lot. It’s shockingly a lot.

“What’s past is prologue.” – William Shakespeare, The Tempest

Another way we block and resist this benevolent Energy that’s always flowing (yes, ALWAYS!) is by obsessing over our pasts, and then agreeing to some set of imaginary rules that say past events and actions craft – and even predict – the future.

With extraordinary attention to detail and the capacity to replay certain mishaps or memories that took place at another time in our lives, starring a younger, less experienced version of ourselves, we take the feelings and plot points, the discomforts and pains of loves lost, dreams squashed, hopes dashed, plans gone awry – we take all this unpleasant stuff and we serve it up as a big, giant platter of “PROOF.” Proof we can’t do something. Proof we are failures. Proof that we were wrong about the whispers of our hearts, the longings in our souls, and the gifts alive in our singular spirits.

We carry this platter of “proof” with us throughout the day, and we hold it up to others and ourselves. Then we mistake this platter of “proof” for REALITY – both the “Reality” of what IS, and the “Reality” of the limits of our potential, possibilities, and for what we may still yet become.

This is not Possibility talking!

This is fear, habit, doubt, shame, inexperience, stubbornness, pride, sadness, loss, anger, heartache, depression, confusion, angst, brainwashing, pain…it is any or all of these things, but it is not POSSIBILITY.

It’s time to let all that go.

It’s time to say thank you for everything that has come before us, for all the struggles, all the memories, all the unique incidents that have made us what we are today, and to let it go, like a kite in the wind, like a bubble from a wand.

Then, and only then, can we step through our Portals of Possibility, and step into the lives we wish to create today from the place of who we actually are, from the experiences we have carved, that have strengthened us, nurtured us, and trained us to fulfill our glorious destinies.

It’s time to allow FLOW.

“Nothing that you want is upstream,” says an emphatic Esther Hicks, as she channels Abraham at one of her workshops. (Let me reiterate – the Hicks’ books and philosophies are quite different from mainstream thinking. Just saying.)

Are you arguing with that idea right now? Is your brain searching for ways and scenarios to refute the premise that nothing we want is upstream?

Hmm. Interesting.

Now imagine if we worked that hard, that automatically and passionately, at seeing, feeling, believing, and justifying the notion of FLOW…

You could decide instead – nay, realize! – that what you want is actually downstream from where you are now, and all you have to do is stop fighting against the current.

“Resistance is futile.” The Borg, a la Star Trek

Lao Tzu, Ram Dass, Louise Hay, Deepak Chopra, Byron Katie, Eckhart Tolle, and so many other spiritual thought leaders say most – if not all – of our pain and struggle in our lives comes from a fierce and consistent disharmony with whatever’s happening in the moment.

This moment, right now, is all we ever have, all there ever is, and all that’ll ever be. The past happened “in the now.” The future will happen “in the now.” But it is, and will always be, NOW. (More on this “Now” thing in a couple weeks… ;) )

The thing is, once you get over the trippiness of this premise and start seeing it for what it is – like, The Truth – it gets more and more apparent that yes, by jove! I DO in fact resist the idea of what’s happening, a lot! And this constant conflict, this fighting what’s happening right in front of me – it doesn’t feel good. It’s frustrating. It’s counter-productive. And ultimately, it’s EXHAUSTING.

Let it go. Allow the FLOW.

Dude, seriously. It’s the only way. There IS a flow. You CAN get in your metaphoric canoe and decide to point it downstream, so it can carry you, and so you can enjoy the scenery, and enjoy the journey. Yes, it takes practice, and grace, and perhaps even some like-minded friends or teachers or changes of scenery, or a combination of all the above. But you CAN do it, especially as you step further and further into your blossoming POSSIBILITIES.

Don’t believe me? Take it from Jason Mraz:

“Frustration and Love can’t exist in the same place at the same time, so get real and start doing what you would rather be doing in life. Love your life. All of it. Even the heavy s*** that happened to you when you were 8. All of it was and IS perfect.”

–Jason Mraz

Jason Mraz wouldn’t lie to you.

And neither would I.

Now goooooooooo with the flowwwwwwwwwww…

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