Why resist Facebook?

by Allen Voivod

You know that person who won’t get himself, herself, or their business or organization on Facebook because people play farming and mafia and fish tank and poker games on there?

Here’s what I’d like to know:

Mailbox Hit and Run, photo by Lars Plougmann

Mailbox Hit and Run, photo by Lars Plougmann

Did that same person remove their mailbox from their business office, or even at home, because they received unwanted mail?

Did that same person rip the land-line telephone out of the wall because a relative kept calling them at work?

Did that same person delete their email account when they received forwarded nonsense disproven by Snopes?

Did that same person cancel their cell phone contract because of the calls they got from people trying to dial the previous owner of the phone number?

Of course not! :)

And yet professionals of every stripe still use similar rationales to avoid establishing a professional presence on Facebook, the world’s most highly trafficked website – or second most, depending on the week.

Professionals want to know that their time – ultimately, the most valuable and precious commodity they have – will not be wasted on Facebook. That’s a completely valid concern, and it’s why we take people’s Facebook hesitations seriously.

But to dismiss Facebook because millions of people (professionals among them!) occasionally use it for frivolous purposes is like throwing the baby out with the bathwater.

So, if you’re one of those folks pooh-poohing Facebook…what would you need to see to change your mind about it?

  • Dan Cooper

    Facebook is dumb. I will never, ever join facebook. Facebook is the first major step in assuring that every action you take will be reported and analyzed by others. It is the Big Brother that we created, and we police it ourselves. I read a recent article in Discover Magazine about these new “tools” of ours, one of which being the app that let’s you see where your friends are at by tracking the GPS in their cellphone. A teenage girl gave an interesting reaction to it: she said that she didn’t want to have everyone be able to see her location, but that if she didn’t use the app, her “friends” would think she had something to hide.

    This is the path that Facebook started us on. Resist Facebook.

  • Mike1145

    The difference is that you check your postal mail because you mght miss legal mail or gifts or checks or other things of value. These things are sent expressly to YOU by the SENDER.

    Same sort of thing with e-mail. Your friends send you personal letters and notes specifically for YOU from THEM. Same for legal notifications from businesses, monthly bills and such.

    FB requires the recipient to check every day just to make sure they didn’t miss something. And then if they miss something it could be far down the queue, amidst notes about when someone had lunch, when they went to the bathroom. Why should the onus be on the recipient? I someone wants to inform me about their life then, our relationship is worthwhile, they should contact me personally. After all, if they want to let all their friends know about important events in their lives then how hard is it to send an e-mail to all of their friends.

  • http://twitter.com/AllenVoivod Allen Voivod *A-Ha!*

    Thanks for commenting, Mike! I’d contend that there’s no difference, actually. The postal mail requires that you walk out and open your mailbox. And that you have a mailbox in the first place!

    Email requires you to open an application or log into a web-based account to receive it. So does Facebook. And when you login, Facebook has that helpful “Notifications” space that tells you what activity has occurred, and gives you a hyperlink straight to it. What’s more, you can change Facebook’s settings so that you’ll receive standard emails every time there’s activity.

    The real secret is that the onus has NEVER been on the SENDER, but ALWAYS on the RECEIVER, to choose to receive messages however you want to receive them. And therefore, if the sender wants to be effective in sending a message, he or she must choose the means of sending that reflects the receiver’s desire.

    If you don’t maintain a mailbox, if you don’t establish an email account, if you stay off of Facebook, it’s all the same thing. The receiver has the power to join the conversation or to refuse it. Except….

    The volume of postal mail is down so much, the US Postal Service proposed 120,000 layoffs this year. 90% of email traffic is spam. Yet Facebook reached 800 million members this year. And those people expect that lunch is part of the conversation from time to time.

    If you choose to avoid Facebook for personal use, you’ll be just fine. It’s like attending a family reunion or big birthday party – if you don’t, you’ll miss out on some inane conversation, but you’ll miss out on some glorious ones, too.

    If you have a business and you choose to keep the business off Facebook, the odds are against your business surviving, which is a whole separate conversation.

  • Ellis

    Your four rhetorical questions at the beginning of this piece are nothing more than straw men. In none of those cases did the person forfeit their privacy in return for those erroneous calls or posts. Receiving calls for previous number holders has nothing to do with every detail of my life and business being put out for people to see, and that is the only reason I stay away from Facebook and its like.
    You may say that you only have to reveal the details you want to put out, and you only need to respond to the ones you wish to respond to, but keep in mind you’re also announcing your entire network of friends, family and business associates to each other as well as to a company that makes money off merchandising that information, along with the times you check every day, the links you click through, and how much time you spend on FB daily. Not to mention the fact that the government is now trolling Facebook for information on citizens. Just in case, y’know..

    Google is much the same way, but even more insidious. You may choose to stay out of their Google+ nonsense, but by simply exchanging email with someone having a GMail address, you’re also helping Google build a rudimentary profile on you based on your IP address. They can gather a surprising amount of information about you this way. What happens when you conduct a Paypal transaction with someone who has a Gmail address?

    Put on a larger scale, all this cloud computing buzz is the worst blow to individual freedom and privacy I’ve seen yet. Realize that Google wants you to store all your documents and photos on their servers, and they bought Picasa just to make sure that you host with them. They, along with every other cloud-based photo service (Apple included) run facial recognition on photos they host. So does Facebook. Run enough photos through there and they know what you look like even if you don’t want them to.

    And none of this information goes away. Ever. Facebook has admitted that every bit of information you ever give them will persist, even if you delete your account. The same for Google.

    I’m not quite certain why my mind needs to be changed. My information is my property and if the world passes me by while I protect that I care not a bit.

  • http://twitter.com/AllenVoivod Allen Voivod *A-Ha!*

    Hi Ellis,

    Thanks for taking the time to reply! The post was written for people who specifically say they’re not on Facebook because of the frivolous activity that happens there. The situations you address are an entirely different consideration, and an entirely different post would be required to respond to it.

    That said, looking at this from the business perspective (which is what this blog focuses on most), businesses absolutely can have a presence on Facebook even if their owners have similar feelings to yours and decide never to add a single thing to their personal profiles, ever. It’s definitely possible to thread that needle, do what’s necessary to maintain visibility and create engagement for one’s business, and still address one’s individual freedom and privacy considerations.

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